10 Cultural Tips to Help You Date a Russian Woman

Alina Olga Orlov
5 min readJun 29, 2022

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If you’re single, you should try dating a Russian woman. Russia has been in a demographic crisis for the past few years. This means your chances of meeting your potential partner in Russia increase per year.

There is a gradual marriage decline and a rise in divorce. Adding to this, the population includes around 60% of women and 40% of men. As a result, more and more women are single.

The chances of you meeting the love of your life in Russia are significantly high. So, if you’re going to start making plans, you should take notes of these tips.

Know the Language

Don’t skip this tip because it might save you from embarrassing moments in the future. There are a lot of Russian women who can speak fluent English, but it’s always better to prepare for misunderstandings.

Learning the language to a conversational level can help in understanding their culture. A good example is when a Russian woman says no. They don’t mean ‘no’ as if it’s the final decision. Instead, it’s an invitation for you to negotiate more.

If you want to impress her, try saying devushka, which means young woman. You’ll get on her good side real quick.

Family Values

One thing to note about Russian women is their family values. They hold their parents’ opinions in high regard and will often be eager to introduce you to them. Once they have their parents’ approval, you’ll be on the fast lane to a lasting relationship.

It might be a little overwhelming, but getting the blessing of her family is important. Her father and mother will start treating you as a genuine family member. You’ll get an invite to birthdays, festivals, and even social gatherings.

The quickest way to a Russian woman’s heart is to win the hearts of her family. I suggest spending most of your time with them instead of her. Your relationship is set in stone if they enjoy having you around.

Dating to Marry

Before dating a Russian woman, please note that they mostly date to marry. After getting the blessing of her family, they will expect a proposal soon. If you’ve dated each other for a while, the family will ask about marriage constantly.

Did you know that their marriage and divorce rate has a 1:1 ratio? Their society pressures them to marry by 25 and have kids around that age. It’s pretty understandable given their demographic crisis, where the population of men slowly dwindles.

If you’re planning to date a few women to increase your options, you won’t find much luck. There is no way around this because maintaining a lasting relationship with a Russian woman means discussing children and marriage.

Gender Roles

A Russian woman will always do the housework and prioritize raising children. Gender is a sensitive topic that most people tend to avoid in Russia. Instead, they stick to outdated gender roles to follow what society dictates.

If you’re planning on dating a woman who is traditional in values, then, as a man, you are expected to be the breadwinner. They don’t want you to be concerned with helping around the house and will push you to lead your family to a comfortable lifestyle.

Don’t get too worried. Although following set gender roles is encouraged and readily accepted by most women, there are a few who ignore this belief and hold strong positions in businesses. Go out, explore, and become a power couple!

Always 100%

Speaking of power, did you know that Russian women will always give 100%? It doesn’t matter if it’s work or how they dress because they will always choose to give it their all. Even a short trip to the grocery store means dressing up to make sure they look fabulous.

This behavior goes back to their demographic crisis. Society expects them to look attractive to potential partners all the time because of the limited dating pool. You can say they just got used to looking good every time.

I suggest a simple and meaningful compliment every time. You can call her gorgeous, beautiful, and all the other words of adoration. Try calling her a devushka again and see her eyes glitter with pride.

Men Always Pay the Bill

One of the things that most men are keen on doing is paying the bill. If you’re one of those men, don’t worry. Their culture expects you to pay from the first date and all the dates going forward before marriage.

However, you’re not going to pay for everything. You’ll only be paying for dates and outings. Once she decides you’re the one, your date won’t mind splitting the bill in the future.

Keep in mind that Russian women date to marry. It’s only a test to see if you’re financially stable enough to get her parents’ approval. After all, they do want someone capable of taking care of their beloved daughter.

Beliefs and Values Matter

The last tip I can give you is to stay firm in your beliefs. Russian women will choose a man with the right principles and morals for them. They won’t lower their standards to men who are weak in their stance.

It also means you shouldn’t try dating someone who has different opinions in life. Sometimes, your values are still negotiable, but it’s best not to butt heads with a Russian woman.

Don’t forget that you’re also dating her family. If her family doesn’t accept your beliefs, there won’t be any chance for your relationship to last. It’s best not to waste any time and keep moving forward.

Plan & Prepare

If you want to date a Russian woman, you need to plan and prepare accordingly. You should try to learn the language to get the best results. Also, remember to date for marriage because you’ll have a hard time trying to find options.

Once you finally land a date, it’s up to you to be consistent. Reading this blog will only help you go so far, but the rest of the journey is up to you. Stay safe, and happy dating!

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Alina Olga Orlov
Alina Olga Orlov

Written by Alina Olga Orlov

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